{"id":125,"date":"2008-09-06T00:47:55","date_gmt":"2008-09-06T00:47:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/?p=125"},"modified":"2008-09-06T00:47:55","modified_gmt":"2008-09-06T00:47:55","slug":"softer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/?p=125","title":{"rendered":"softer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s so interesting how thoughts and feelings that arise around something can harden you or soften you or both. I like the idea of both because I&#8217;d like to get away from all the binary thinking of this either\/or culture.  Say for instance I&#8217;ve have some unwanted experience, like rejection, I can get pissed and hurt and close myself off or I can feel sad and closer to the pain of other folks who I know are feeling rejected too.  Especially folks who feel rejected by me. And for a second I can also see maybe it was never about rejection; maybe it was about someone seeking out connection or trying to soothe their loneliness and longing and fear; maybe it was about self-preservation; maybe it was was about timing.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe it&#8217;s ok if I&#8217;m even a little softer than I thought I was.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s so interesting how thoughts and feelings that arise around something can harden you or soften you or both. I like the idea of both because I&#8217;d like to get away from all the binary thinking of this either\/or culture. Say for instance I&#8217;ve have some unwanted experience, like rejection, I can get pissed and [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-125","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-insights"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=125"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/125\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=125"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=125"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=125"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}