Today, I was asking a colleague (a guy)\u00a0 in a super straight forward way what was up with a certain meeting invite and our new graphic designer (a girl)\u00a0 overheard me and joked, “My, you’re sassy.”\u00a0 How funny.\u00a0 No one I know calls me sassy. It reminds me of how wait people will call me miss or lady, to which I always wanna respond something like, “I’ll tip you extra if you never say that to me again.”<\/p>\n
It’s all these little things that add up to being read or not as butch.\u00a0 Sometimes it’s uncomfortable, like getting the double take when I use the women’s restroom.\u00a0 Sometimes it’s flattering, like the straight girl at the wedding party who can’t stop touching me when she when she wants to make a point.\u00a0 Sometimes it awkward, like negotiating for service when I’ve gone shopping for a nice men’s suit.\u00a0 But sometimes it’s just right, though, some girl will say or do just the right thing or some other butch will gimme the nod or bond with me over heartbreak and getting older.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Today, I was asking a colleague (a guy)\u00a0 in a super straight forward way what was up with a certain meeting invite and our new graphic designer (a girl)\u00a0 overheard me and joked, “My, you’re sassy.”\u00a0 How funny.\u00a0 No one I know calls me sassy. It reminds me of how wait people will call me […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31,29],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-160","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-a-girl","category-butch"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=160"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=160"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=160"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.proteanme.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=160"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}